Wonder Woman
I wanted to live in reality. I wanted to take proactive steps. I wanted to try. i wanted to breach the gap between my mind and the actual world.
“Enlarge the place of your tent, stretch your tent curtains wide, do not hold back; lengthen your cords, strengthen your stakes. For you will spread out to the right and to the left” - Isaiah 54:2,3
Let our faith cause us to think bigger, be stronger and step out of our comfort zones.
SELF-LOVE :)))
For the first month after my break-up, I fantasized that my ex-boyfriend would realize his mistake and come running back. Ideally, he would show up at my doorstep with flowers to profess his undying love for me. This thought process makes total sense, right? Why not leave myself feeling vulnerable and waste precious time waiting for something that will likely never happen?
Ha.
This situation brought me to an important realization: I don’t have to wait for someone else to love me, I love me now.
I wiped away my last tear, went to the store, and bought my own damn flowers. :)
The promise and security of being with someone “forever” is both appealing and dangerous. We crave affection and finding that one person to spend our lives with. But, we often fail to realize that the quality of relationships you attract drastically changes when you can look in the mirror and love the person staring back at you.
It’s common to develop self-doubt and negative feelings after a break-up. I used to blame myself for failed attempts at love, until I realized that the demise of most relationships is caused by incompatibility. It wasn’t his fault. It wasn’t my fault. We’re both loving people, but we’re just not the right fit for each other. This new perspective has allowed me to remain open and optimistic about future love.
It sounds cliché, but it really is true that when you look for validation in others, you will always come up short. Relationships are a wonderful blessing, but you must be prepared to deal with the unexpected. People change their minds. Promises shatter in seconds. Things that aren’t supposed to happen, happen anyway. Wouldn’t it be nice to know that you (yes, you– you wonderful, lovable, inspiring person reading this post) already possess everything you need to feel loved all on your own? You can cultivate a love for yourself that will never leave you.
I am confident that someday I will meet the man I’m meant to spend my life with. Until then, I’m working on becoming a stronger version of myself; a woman who wakes up every morning with the confidence and energy to pursue her own passions. Right now, the loving relationship I have with myself is greater than the dream of a love that I’ll someday share with another.
sayILabRACHEL :))
